Sometimes it is hard to know what is OK and what is not. Or we can point out what we need, but don't acknowledge the needs of our partner. Take a look at our list of rights and responsibilities. Let us know if you agree or have something to add.

Each Partner has the Right...

* To express their own feelings and opinions, whether or not their partner agrees.

* To be themselves.

*  To make decisions about themselves for themselves and to have equal decision-making power in the relationship.

*  To say ‘no’ to any physical act that makes them uncomfortable at any time.

*  To refuse a date at any time.

*  To make and maintain friendships with whomever they choose.

*  To participate in activities without their partner.

*  To control their own money and possessions.

*  To live free from fear and abuse.

*  To end the relationship when they desire.

Each Partner has the Responsibility...

*  To treat their partner with respect, equality, and honesty.

*  To encourage their partner’s dreams and individuality.

*  To never humiliate or put down their partner.

*  To respect their partner’s decisions- even if you don’t agree.

*  To respect and understand that their partner has the right to say ‘no’ at any point and any time regardless of previous consent.

*  To solve problems calmly and equally.

*  To accept responsibility for their own actions.

*  To be willing to apologize as well as accept apologies. 

*  To never pressure, control, or manipulate their partner.

*  To never emotionally, sexually, or physically hurt their partner.

*  To never threaten or harm their partner or themselves in a way to hurt or control their partner.